The CAFAB/CAMAB situation on Tumblr bears an uncanny resemblance to gender equality issues in the real world.
- Male-sexed people receive visibility and their input is valued
- With the progress of the world in general and much struggle, female-sexed individuals receive some visibility, which they establish on their own
- Conditioned by male privilege and terrified of losing support, male-sexed people strike out to erase female input; they truly view themselves as victims and have never been made to feel ashamed for speaking or existing on the basis of their anatomy, so they gain allies quickly and convince female-sexed people to allow them in as they are being “unfair”
- Female-sexed people are thought of as crazy, unreasonable and greedy for trying to regain the spaces they fought for
Have these people never visited the internet outside of Tumblr? Especially pre-2010? Because you were lucky if you found one or two active communities with actual transmale input. Trans men do not want to take over your precious “spaces”, they created communities of their own here on Tumblr which you then barged into with muddy boots, trampling over the abuse and ingrained sense of shame of female-socialised people, quickly convincing them they were taking what was rightfully yours by creating something for themselves. And instead of just creating something of your own and coexisting, you took the one source of active support trans men had and turned it into your platform to complain about their existence.
I will stop believing in male socialisation when trans women stop acting like males.
It seems that every time a masculine female sexed person (doesn’t seem to actually matter if they’re trans or not) is represented in media, they’re always shot down by the trans community at large because apparently masculine “FAAB” people already have too much positive representation and feminine “MAAB” people are always underrepresented or portrayed badly.
I would really love to know where the fuck this positive representation actually is, because I sure as hell can’t find it. Any female that steps outside gender roles is either portrayed as a caricature to be mocked, or is raped, killed or otherwise put under pressure to be a “proper woman”. I have seen trans people here get annoyed at the mere POSSIBILITY of a masculine female appearing in a comic.
I think some people still seriously believe that women can dress and act however they like without repercussion just because it’s socially acceptable for women to wear pants/trousers now.
Personally, I wish there would be more positive portrayals of women and men who break stereotypical gender roles. I wish there were positive portrayals of trans men and women out there. (Especially because trans men are so erased from the public eye, except as some sort of side-show act for people to marvel at and say how freakish we are, how we’re delusional women who need men to ‘put us in our place’.)
It just pisses me off that there is such a “ME FIRST!” attitude when it comes to trans representation, and representation for those who don’t ascribe to rigid gender roles. Because it’s usually the females who get kicked to the curb and told to wait our turn, because we’re less important, because we don’t matter as much.
…why does that feel familiar?
Calling trans women “male sexed” and trans men “female sexed” does not constitute “misgendering.” Male and female are biological realities, not gender identities. Sex class analysis is incredibly important, and your hurt feelings do not invalidate that.
What I Mean When I Say I’m Sex Negative
- that sex positive feminism has little room for survivors of assault
- that sex positive feminism has little interest in helping people who don’t want their sex-life to be a coping mechanism from trauma
- that sex positive feminism prioritizes individual pleasure over critical thinking skills
- that sex positive feminism should be critiqued!
- that not all “kinks” are okay
- that people are allowed to not be interested in hearing about your sex life
- that people are allowed to not enjoy sex
- that people are allowed to be scared of sex
- that no one needs to have or enjoy sex to prove how empowered they are
What I Don’t Mean
- I’m going to yell at individual adults who have consensual sex.
- I’m anti-sex
- I’m anti-kink
- I’m against coping mechanisms and survival
My problem with this definition of “genderqueer” is that it’s gender essentialist. It assumes that skirts and dresses are inherently gendered rather than thought of as such because of the social construction of masculine and feminine. I would argue that this way of thinking is harmful because it reinforces the idea that there is anything natural or innate about gender/gendering things, rather than saying the problem is assigning gender to things and trying to force people who should be able to be and enjoy what they want into tiny boxes with “these are for you, these are for them” labelled on everything.
The patriarchy is a system, Neo. That system is our enemy. But when you’re inside, you look around, what do you see? Businessmen, teachers, lawyers, carpenters. The very minds of the people we are trying to save. But until we do, these people are still a part of that system, and that makes them our enemy. You have to understand, most of these people are not ready to be unplugged. And many of them are so inured, so hopelessly dependent on the system, that they will fight to protect it.